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Doin' Time at Christmas

Hi.  I’m a Lifeline volunteer and a bi-polar sufferer and this is just a little note about those who you love and those who come within your orbit at Christmas, or maybe it’s a little note about you.

I have fun at Christmas.  I drink a little; I go to a few parties; someone cooks for me on Christmas Day; I get a few gifts; I begrudgingly send cards and gifts (I’m bad-tempered like that!) and the whole thing progresses nicely past the finishing line and then it’s January and I feel a bit flat at the passing of the season.  Maybe Christmas should be imbued with more meaning for me, but, all up, it’s fun, and it’s ok.

Christmas used to be an endless two-month stretch of pain and more pain and praying for any relief from the horror of the way I felt.  Don’t ask me why, but that’s how I felt in the run-up to Christmas and over the holiday period itself.  It was Hell.  I felt lonely, isolated and desperately desperately sad.  The sadness was a grief overwhelming.

Then they found out that I am a bi-polar sufferer and they put me on medication and now Christmas is a right fun little pork chop of a knees-up!

For people who do or do not know that they are struggling with depression, the ramping up of the Christmas season is crushing.  The pressure to be happy brings the depressed, alone and lonely person down even further, to dangerous levels - don’t ask me why, because I don’t exactly understand it – nowadays for me I take my meds and go to the parties whereas the torment used to be practically unendurable.  For me, these days – it’s ‘problem solved’.  Not so for many others.

I’ve got friends now who do Christmas really tough.  I tell them that I know they do it tough and that they can contact me if they need support.  I tell them how I used to do it tough too and that I fear they have clinical depression and to call me if they need me and try to get the support they need and to ‘hang in there’.

Please make part of your Christmas the reward of reaching out to at least one person in your orbit who needs it – I know you know how because you’re reading a Lifeline newsletter!  Tell that neighbour, colleague, niece or friend that you can see they do it tough and they can contact you if they need to, and then look out for them, call them and see if you can understand and meet their needs, and then let that be your Christmas present to yourself.  

Best wishes for an enjoyable Christmas season.
 
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